Skip to main content

Responding to Interpersonal Conflict




I am rebuked lately on humility and pride. All the while I thought that I have been humbled by God's wisdom and His grace. Because (I thought) I was so careful with how I speak to others, how I deal with people and how I respond to questions and concerns, (I thought) I will never have any issues with anyone. I was wrong.

Recently in the office, I was asked by my boss to transition to another program. The program was a little tenured and have been with our company for over 2 years now. I was asked to speak to the current manager to understand the situation of the program - why are they failing, what help do they need, what's the current scenario, etc. I did that. I thought, I had a good conversation with the current manager but never did I realized, I made her offended and felt so insecure about me and my intent.

I won't elaborate anymore but the situation saddens me that I made someone felt so bad and angry at me. I wasn't expecting that. I have been thinking about it for several days and how to react to situation. I know God is trying to teach me a lesson.

Chris' article made me realize on how exactly I would react and what I am supposed to do on this situation.

It might also help you.





Responding to Interpersonal Conflict
by Chris Esty on June 17, 2012

"Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another just as God has forgiven you in Christ. (Ephesians 4:32)"
Compassion is the answer to interpersonal conflict; it fills the gap anger creates, mending the wounds of the brokenhearted. It’s easy to get angry and fight back when we have been wronged, but retaliation often fosters devastating consequences, making matters worse.

Jesus never commanded us to crush our enemies, but to become an expression of His love to them. Do you want to draw people to God? You will not accomplish that by holding a grudge against them, but only by walking in the light as God is in the light. Strive to be as compassionate to others as God has been to you, and you will produce much fruit to His glory.

You didn’t receive the gospel only to be forgiven, but to show others what forgiveness looks like.

© Chris S. Esty

Comments

  1. AnonymousJuly 3, 2012 at 10:49 PM

    You have once offended me but after reading this.. it made me realize that maybe your intention is different...God is good for I was able to see this during the time that I needed some answers... I have already forgiven you...

    ReplyDelete

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Sagittarius Horoscope 2012

I just thought of looking at what horoscope experts say about Sagittarius in 2012. Sagittarius (Nov 22- Dec 21) Sagittarius horoscope 2012 Those who are born from November 22nd to December 21st are under the star of Sagittarius. Sagittarius horoscope 2012 brings lots of memorable and fabulous times this New Year for the Sagittarius. There will also be lots of new things in store for you due to your energy and passion which are incomparable. Generally, you have gentle and respectable qualities together with your high spirits which can be easily transmitted to people around you. Furthermore, you are so popular because you easily trust others, you are honest and you always keep your words even if the situation seems impossible. This year, have a positive outlook in life and try to leave behind bad experiences and happenings that have gotten in your way. You will be able to handle both good and bad occurrences that will come this year if you maintain your energy, sense of initiative...
2 comments
Read more
If you were presented with an opportunity to do something great - to really leave a mark on the world and make a difference, would you take it? I think that most people would, I know that I certainly would. 🙌 Perhaps the reason that most people don’t end up doing this is because of the personal price that needs to be paid. One thing I’ve certainly learned for myself is that if I want to be able to influence other people and things around me I first need to be able to influence myself. If I want to create change around me, I need to start with myself. I can’t take my same old self into a bright new future - I’ll only darken it. 💥 The good news is that if I put proper focus on changing myself, on growing and learning and developing my skills - my potential will be unlimited. 💪 **** picture below is my inspiration. It's a dream come true to enter The Asian Institute of Management as a student. This happened in 2018 when I was enrolled by my prior company to an Executive Development...
Post a Comment
Read more

Holy Week Pilgrimage 2016

We were praying and fasting and walking. I almost gave up. I asked Argie to stop several times. I thought of riding a cab instead of walking then I realized we've been walking and 8 kilometer walk is just nothing compared to what Jesus has done on the cross. Argie has been holding my hand all throughout and he has been really supportive. We our faith and continue walking. It took us 4 hrs to get there. While walking, I recalled how tough first quarter was for me and what are the things I could have done differently.  It was a realization that no matter what challenges I have encountered, I will always have to hold on and keep my faith in God, I know for sure, we will achieve our goals and I am excited for it! This season has reminded me again to be humble, forgiving,  faithful and trusting to God. Hope you were able to spend quality time with your family this holiday and you were able to find the true meaning of Lent. God bless! 👼😇🙇
Post a Comment
Read more