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Responding to Interpersonal Conflict




I am rebuked lately on humility and pride. All the while I thought that I have been humbled by God's wisdom and His grace. Because (I thought) I was so careful with how I speak to others, how I deal with people and how I respond to questions and concerns, (I thought) I will never have any issues with anyone. I was wrong.

Recently in the office, I was asked by my boss to transition to another program. The program was a little tenured and have been with our company for over 2 years now. I was asked to speak to the current manager to understand the situation of the program - why are they failing, what help do they need, what's the current scenario, etc. I did that. I thought, I had a good conversation with the current manager but never did I realized, I made her offended and felt so insecure about me and my intent.

I won't elaborate anymore but the situation saddens me that I made someone felt so bad and angry at me. I wasn't expecting that. I have been thinking about it for several days and how to react to situation. I know God is trying to teach me a lesson.

Chris' article made me realize on how exactly I would react and what I am supposed to do on this situation.

It might also help you.





Responding to Interpersonal Conflict
by Chris Esty on June 17, 2012

"Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another just as God has forgiven you in Christ. (Ephesians 4:32)"
Compassion is the answer to interpersonal conflict; it fills the gap anger creates, mending the wounds of the brokenhearted. It’s easy to get angry and fight back when we have been wronged, but retaliation often fosters devastating consequences, making matters worse.

Jesus never commanded us to crush our enemies, but to become an expression of His love to them. Do you want to draw people to God? You will not accomplish that by holding a grudge against them, but only by walking in the light as God is in the light. Strive to be as compassionate to others as God has been to you, and you will produce much fruit to His glory.

You didn’t receive the gospel only to be forgiven, but to show others what forgiveness looks like.

© Chris S. Esty

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  1. AnonymousJuly 3, 2012 at 10:49 PM

    You have once offended me but after reading this.. it made me realize that maybe your intention is different...God is good for I was able to see this during the time that I needed some answers... I have already forgiven you...

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