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Friend or Lover?

A friend asked me, "kung papiliin ka, your friend or your lover, which one would you choose?"

I said, Friend.

"Why?"

Madami nakong nasirang friendship dahil sa pagpili ng relationship before. I am blessed with true friends na anjan pa dn sila. (Of course, you're friend should be supportive whatever your decision is, mahumaling ka man sa lover mo or what. Ewan, case- to-case basis. There should be a reason why you need to come up with a decision and why do you have to choose between them. Does your lover hates your friend or vice versa? You can probably work from there and make them friends. Eh bakit naman kasi kelangang mamili diba?)

"How would you feel if your friend chose her lover over you?"

Ok lang, choice nya yun eh. I'll miss the old times though. (At first malulungkot ka syempre but later you'll realize the ramifications of her decisions)Ako, hanggang ngayon kinakamusta ko pa dn sya, hoping that we'll still patch things up.

"Was she wrong if she chose you instead over her lover?"

No, she's not. That simply means that she values your friendship more than her lover. Meaning she believes in you, treasure you and trust you.

"Would it change your opinion if she's your subordinate and a friend for 2 yrs and you treated each other as sisters then she chose the guy over you?"

Regardless of the position. Same answer. She's still my friend. If she wants her guy then that's her choice. I'm just here.

Well, that's life. It's just normal, one of the many instances of life's challenges that you will encounter.ü

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